Dutch service (in restaurants) for example isn't bad because our waiters are rude. It's bad because we see the waiters pretty much as our equals and they're not

Dutch service (in restaurants) for example isn't bad because our waiters are rude. It's bad because we see the waiters pretty much as our equals and they're not as deferential as foreigners demand/expect. I don't think that's why service is bad. Believing that your customers are your equal doesn't seem to have anything to do with performing your job well, nor does good food service imply being deferential.