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I've never understood this. I dated a DR that was not an English native speaker. Her English written and spoken was better than 99% of Americans. Yet on the
by citizenpaul 3y ago
I've never understood this. I dated a DR that was not an English native speaker. Her English written and spoken was better than 99% of Americans. Yet on the rare occasion when she didn't know some rarely used word she always acted like she had done something terrible to everyone by asking what it means.
In private she constantly agonized on pronunciations and such that she already had perfectly mastered. I couldn't take it and had to move on. I was not interested in a lifelong english class. I asked her "do you lie to people about where you are from?" No. Then why are you trying to pretend you are a native speaker? No one cares.
I really just don't get it, people are incredibly forgiving of non native speakers most of the time. The only people that are not you don't really want to know anyway.
- whycome 3y agoWhat's a 'DR' in this context? A big part of someone's identity is how they think others perceive them. So, I guess it kinda makes sense that it was something they were especially concerned about.
- fred_is_fred 3y agoI think "doctor" is what fits best in the context provided above, but I am not 100% sure.
- thequux 3y agoI assume that the grandparent meant "from the Dominican Republic" with slightly awkward grammar
- citizenpaul 3y agoYes a doctor. my mistake on the improper formatting.
- Suppafly 3y agoPart of the issue is that friends and partners, and other people trying to be supportive, often lie about how proficient someone's language skills are. I see it on sites like this and reddit all the time, where commenters say things like "you're better than 99% of the people I talk to" when the poster, while mostly clear has made a lot of mistakes. It's probably a bigger issue for doctors and other professionals, because they are peppering their language with 'fancy' or 'big' words that superficially give them impression that their language stills are better than they actually are. It's one thing to be forgiving, it's another thing to lie to someone causing them to overestimate their skills and understandability.
- citizenpaul 3y ago>often lie about how proficient someone's language skills are. I now can see why one might do that. I'm not that kind of person though. There is a mental tax to questions about structured systems that don't have always hard enforced rules.