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Been through it. Never really could take any of this stuff all that seriously. Especially after the woman I ended up closest to passed away. I’m mostly wonderin
by silverquiet 3y ago
Been through it. Never really could take any of this stuff all that seriously. Especially after the woman I ended up closest to passed away. I’m mostly wondering how the people who recommend marriage as a solution to a lot of ills (and I think it’s an issue worth exploring but I also think there’s a lot of correlation/causation mixups here) expect people to take action on that.
- bckr 3y agoMy heart goes out to you with regard to the death of your loved one. Do not let death and grieving pull you permanently out of the realm of intimate relationships. Human connection is foundational to all kinds of success. Taking it seriously has served me well.
- silverquiet 3y agoLoved one is probably overselling it - she cut me loose for the man she would eventually marry and then passed away a few years later, but it certainly made it all seem even more pointless than before. I’m mostly responding to all the advice I see about the benefits of marriage. My response tends to be something like, “so…?”. It occurs to me that no one of these people really talks about the benefits of dating, which seems like a pretty significant prerequisite. And again, I suspect there’s a lot of selection effects going into that data as well. Not that I don’t appreciate your comments.