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If it's anything like Denmark, it's just that nobody local ever does it, and so we never learn that it is an option. Then we suddenly see a foreigner do it and

If it's anything like Denmark, it's just that nobody local ever does it, and so we never learn that it is an option. Then we suddenly see a foreigner do it and wonder what other options we've missed and start to wish life came with a manual.

mock-possum 3y ago
One of the somewhat delightful things I’ve learned as an adult is - you can just ask people for anything, and they’ll do it, much more often than you might think.
- renegade-otter 3y ago
  Shamelessness is a superpower :)
- swexbe 3y ago
  People will even start to like you more for it! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Franklin_effect https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Franklin_effect
  - hooo 3y ago
    I had never heard of this- thanks for linking!
- sneak 3y ago
  I remember the time I was at the Ocha on Embarcadero in downtown SF and I saw some older VC type guy order his shrimp pad thai with no tails. My mind was blown and my life changed forever. Now I order french onion soup without the onions (high end steakhouses are happy to strain it), shrimp tempura rolls with no tails, whatever. I order my salmon nigiri with no skin. I’ll order sides of sauces from other menu items I didn’t get. It’s rare they don’t accommodate me. (Before you ask, I always tip super well and don’t ever mind an upcharge for a special side sauce or whatever.)
  - pests 3y ago
    You are paying them! I still struggle with customizations and usually like to try things as envisioned by the chef, but some food textures I just can't do. Unless it's a place with a certain vision/theme/morals or artsy food, they just want to make you happy.
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pests 3y ago
So true. I used to drink a lot of pop/soda. When I initially cut back I stopped buying two liters for the house and only drank when eating out or the like. It always shocked my table mates to see me asking for a to-go cup for my drink. But now I see those same people getting their drinks to go too, especially after the lockdowns and everywhere was offering curbside drinks.
SoftTalker 3y ago
For Danes, half the experience of a meal is the presentation. They would not want to eat an already half-eaten meal out of a styrofoam box.
- arghwhat 3y ago
  As a Dane from central Copenhagen, I'm not sure where you'd get that idea from. While most would agree that fresh food tastes better (unless it's pizza, that jury is out on that one), that doesn't mean we're too posh for the looks of leftovers. A good portion of our food is also quite boring, and the most common takeaway comes pretty crudely presented and packaged. If we only ate food in fancy presentation, we'd all have starved to death by now. The reason I don't eat half-eaten meals is because I never half-eat meals in the first place. I order the amount of food I want to/can eat, and should that plan fail, I share with my tablemate(s) - although I tend to be the recipient on that one. We don't do it because we fear taking a crime-scene with us home in the form of a haphazardly filled styrofoam box like poor people, but just because it seems polite and proper to both size your mail right and try finish it. That, and that we didn't know that taking it with us home was even an option in the first place.

mock-possum 3y ago

One of the somewhat delightful things I’ve learned as an adult is - you can just ask people for anything, and they’ll do it, much more often than you might think.

renegade-otter 3y ago
Shamelessness is a superpower :)
swexbe 3y ago
People will even start to like you more for it! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Franklin_effect https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Franklin_effect
- hooo 3y ago
  I had never heard of this- thanks for linking!
sneak 3y ago
I remember the time I was at the Ocha on Embarcadero in downtown SF and I saw some older VC type guy order his shrimp pad thai with no tails. My mind was blown and my life changed forever. Now I order french onion soup without the onions (high end steakhouses are happy to strain it), shrimp tempura rolls with no tails, whatever. I order my salmon nigiri with no skin. I’ll order sides of sauces from other menu items I didn’t get. It’s rare they don’t accommodate me. (Before you ask, I always tip super well and don’t ever mind an upcharge for a special side sauce or whatever.)
- pests 3y ago
  You are paying them! I still struggle with customizations and usually like to try things as envisioned by the chef, but some food textures I just can't do. Unless it's a place with a certain vision/theme/morals or artsy food, they just want to make you happy.
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pests 3y ago

So true. I used to drink a lot of pop/soda. When I initially cut back I stopped buying two liters for the house and only drank when eating out or the like. It always shocked my table mates to see me asking for a to-go cup for my drink. But now I see those same people getting their drinks to go too, especially after the lockdowns and everywhere was offering curbside drinks.

SoftTalker 3y ago

For Danes, half the experience of a meal is the presentation. They would not want to eat an already half-eaten meal out of a styrofoam box.

arghwhat 3y ago
As a Dane from central Copenhagen, I'm not sure where you'd get that idea from. While most would agree that fresh food tastes better (unless it's pizza, that jury is out on that one), that doesn't mean we're too posh for the looks of leftovers. A good portion of our food is also quite boring, and the most common takeaway comes pretty crudely presented and packaged. If we only ate food in fancy presentation, we'd all have starved to death by now. The reason I don't eat half-eaten meals is because I never half-eat meals in the first place. I order the amount of food I want to/can eat, and should that plan fail, I share with my tablemate(s) - although I tend to be the recipient on that one. We don't do it because we fear taking a crime-scene with us home in the form of a haphazardly filled styrofoam box like poor people, but just because it seems polite and proper to both size your mail right and try finish it. That, and that we didn't know that taking it with us home was even an option in the first place.