No, I agree with you, maybe I was wrong in assuming parent meant it in a more generalistic way. But then again, the points you bring up, I'd argue it's quite d

No, I agree with you, maybe I was wrong in assuming parent meant it in a more generalistic way. But then again, the points you bring up, I'd argue it's quite difficult to figure all that out before having a kid. Everything I said I meant as having in common some general guidelines and a direction, not every specific detail. Having a shared, defined direction will also help you in settling all the "smaller" disagreements, but I guess my reaction comes from seeing many couples that don't have that general direction figured out yet, i.e. getting married and suddenly husband finds out wife is not that keen about having kids.