I believe the OP isn't arguing that the language shouldn't have the problem, but rather that we shouldn't be relying on the language to try to solve this proble

I believe the OP isn't arguing that the language shouldn't have the problem, but rather that we shouldn't be relying on the language to try to solve this problem. By hiding the complexity of multi-threaded programming behind these facades, we let people write multi-threaded programs without understanding what it is doing. That in turn leads people to believe they don't need to understand parallelism to write thread-safe programs well, and it simply isn't true. Companies don't want to pay for actual expertise, so we are all pressured to do things we don't understand. Languages can enable us to succeed some of the time, but they can't make distributed systems actually simple. The errors that pop up as a result are a predictable consequences of relying on under-trained workers without the resources we need to do our jobs well.