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No, they're doing that because there's no way to actually do what is being demanded safely. Again, parents should be (1) explaining porn to their kids when they
by olliej 3y ago
No, they're doing that because there's no way to actually do what is being demanded safely. Again, parents should be (1) explaining porn to their kids when they get to the age where that might matter, and (2) be involved in parenting their kids.
Alternatively, how would you propose a porn site do age verification that doesn't involve every porn site having giant databases of IDs and user photos? Moreover, as the big - trying to do things right - sites have repeatedly stated, all you're doing is ensuring that the only sites minors can access are the ones that have little to no controls on content.
I get that you may feel that hardcore porn is bad for children - I think the issue here is that that's the only stuff kids can access because less hardcore stuff generally has more aggressive access controls - but the solution here is to explain what pornography is, and how it does or does not match reality, etc. Pretending it doesn't exist results in kids accessing it (because hormones and failure to monitor what your kids are doing online) and not understanding that it does not accurately reflect how real relationships or sex work. It's similar to "protecting" children from sex by pretending it doesn't exist, and making it really bad/sinful, which is super effective at enabling abusers.
- smallmancontrov 3y agoYeah, but if you blame porn for the fertility crisis you don't have to figure out how to make housing and childcare affordable, which probably requires policy that makes assets go down. Can't have that! It is infinitely easier to blame the gays, or the trans, or tiktok, or porn.
- givemeethekeys 3y ago> Again, parents should be (1) explaining porn to their kids when they get to the age where that might matter, and (2) be involved in parenting their kids. Speaking strictly on behalf of my friends and I from junior high, it's pretty self explanatory.
- jmprspret 3y agoSaying this really shows your naïveté to be honest. I mean that with no offence intended. It really isn't all self explanatory. And most junior high students don't understand the depth, nuance and complexity of a lot of things until they're much older. And there is a lot to talk about in the realm of pornography. Take it from me (completely anecdotal), i started watching porn at 13 and for just under a decade since I did not stop. I was completely addicted and I didn't even realise it was happening, and what it was doing to my brain. I didn't realise it was affecting my perception of women, of sex, expectations, I didn't realise id spend hours and hours watching it every day, I didn't realise it was essentially rotting my brain. Not to mention that the whole industry is scummy, and the actors are not treated well for the most part. Now I am clean. And it was actually difficult to stop - another conformation it was addictive. But often I am STILL presented by imagery of the stuff I watched. This imagery in my brain is largely not under my control. It is disturbing that I cannot forget these things. And I often fear it will affect my sex life going forward. Things you do not expect to have major consequences sometimes do. Now, I'm not saying that you can't watch porn without being addicted, but i am saying at the time none of the downsides occurred to me until I was older. And truth be told, if I were you, I would genuinely just steer clear of it in general. I personally don't think it's worth the risk, especially when you're so so young. Stay safe.
- givemeethekeys 3y ago[dead]
- kelipso 3y agoExplaining porn and hoping it will not affect kids negatively doesn't help when there's such easy access to porn everywhere. It's like explaining drugs to kids and there are drug dealers at every corner and a society that encourages drug use. Doesn't work.