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> Antonia Colins, who runs the website Balance Through Simplicity, has two adolescent daughters, one of whom struggles with neatness Another possibility: the d
by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
> Antonia Colins, who runs the website Balance Through Simplicity, has two adolescent daughters, one of whom struggles with neatness
Another possibility: the daughter is at ease in both neat and messy environments, but the mother is only at ease in neat ones. In this case, the conflict is being driven by the mother's struggles - not the daughter's.
Taking the unmarried marriage therapists advice and escalating your nagging to email is a disaster idea. You can't performance manage a relationship. Nagging and trying to change people doesn't work. Communicating your needs and reaching compromise does.
- lynx23 3y agoOne of the biggest warning signs in a new(ish) relationship. If she is trying to change you to her likings, run away as fast as possible. BTW, thanks for mentioning the obvious. There are so many cases where parents claim problems with their children, which instantly go away when the children are allowed/able to leave the parental household. Control freaks are unhealth, to themselves and others.
- theshrike79 3y agoThis is where Marie Kondo had it right: You don't try to clean up other people's stuff. You clean your own crap and let theirs be.