It’s definitely a learned soft skill to direct interactions to be collaborative rather than adversarial. It’s too easy to fall into an adversarial discussion b

It’s definitely a learned soft skill to direct interactions to be collaborative rather than adversarial. It’s too easy to fall into an adversarial discussion because of differing opinions (eg about code architecture) when really you’re on the same team. I try to keep in mind (and convey) the image of “you and me side to side against the problem on the whiteboard” rather than “you and me against each other”