Plenty of people work out how to collaborate in raising kid in a variety of ways, including as an incidental aspect of going to court, but "paying child support

Plenty of people work out how to collaborate in raising kid in a variety of ways, including as an incidental aspect of going to court, but "paying child support" colloquially is a judicial imposition that may or may not be grounded in moral reason. I'm not saying that paying to support a child is not a moral obligation, I'm saying paying child support or getting someone to do so is not a moral consideration more often than it is a judicial obligation. Others can explore the obvious hypotheticals, but plenty of the time one party ends up destroyed in proceedings. Any two parties should approach the prospect of raising a child with extreme diligence, unfortunately not everyone does, accidents happen, emotions take over and later things may or may not go horribly.