The good thing is that you spend that time doing something you like or learning a new skill, and might also make friends. You also filter for partners who are i

The good thing is that you spend that time doing something you like or learning a new skill, and might also make friends. You also filter for partners who are interested in the same things as you. The bad thing is that a lot of people read that advice, and many communities are ruined by men who use them as a dating pool. This is a well-documented phenomenon. I think that the broader advice - to put yourself out there - is still valid. Going out, doing stuff, organizing stuff and meeting new people means occasionally getting a date too.