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you're trending towards 60% of people meeting online via dating apps - which have the wrong incentives and have massive trust issues for couples. and btw match

by dzonga 3y ago

you're trending towards 60% of people meeting online via dating apps - which have the wrong incentives and have massive trust issues for couples. and btw match group has like 80% share of the dating app market. and dating apps are brutal to the average guy. now remove the option of meeting spouses via work. -- metoo then add the situation of people working remotely, and finding jobs in places they didn't grow up. which means they're less likely to find spouses through friends - as one they can't easily make friends of the opposite sex due to sheer limitation in opportunity through the decimation of 3rd spaces. what you simply have is a sure way to depopulate a population and cause frustration on everyone.

CuriouslyC 3y ago
It's pretty damning when people are creating text documents and sharing them online because dating websites are such overcapitalized garbage.
YugyDugan 3y ago
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cedws 3y ago
There's less people meeting at bars and clubs too, especially among the younger generations who either don't drink or can't afford to. Apparently women don't like being approached anymore either. As a single person I am very confused about how this is all supposed to work.
- CuriouslyC 3y ago
  The percentage of women who respond to a direct approach has been pretty bad for a while, you really have to be smooth to make it work. The "meet cute" angle is easier - i.e. fortuitously bumping into a woman in some way or striking up a conversation spontaneously about shared circumstances. Most women are open to that sort of meeting if it feels natural, but then you have to have some sort of routine for "spontaneously" striking up a conversation so it's not without its drawbacks.
reaperman 3y ago
Meeting spouses via work isn't dead. Just dating people whom you have power over on the org structure. You can't date your N-1 or N-2 etc, but you can still date someone in an adjacent group just fine. Which honestly seems reasonable. Working in restaurants in rural areas I constantly saw managers removing shifts from women who wouldn't date them, and were very pushy/controlling over all the women they had reign over. There weren't many other jobs for most of these women - high unemployment areas.
- lazide 3y ago
  Nah, it’s trivial to get #metoo’d out of a job dating someone even in another department now a days. The hierarchy thing is definitely a thing, that’s a fireable offense even without false allegations. But false allegations will take someone out pretty easily regardless.

by dzonga 3y ago

CuriouslyC 3y ago

It's pretty damning when people are creating text documents and sharing them online because dating websites are such overcapitalized garbage.

YugyDugan 3y ago

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cedws 3y ago

There's less people meeting at bars and clubs too, especially among the younger generations who either don't drink or can't afford to. Apparently women don't like being approached anymore either. As a single person I am very confused about how this is all supposed to work.

CuriouslyC 3y ago
The percentage of women who respond to a direct approach has been pretty bad for a while, you really have to be smooth to make it work. The "meet cute" angle is easier - i.e. fortuitously bumping into a woman in some way or striking up a conversation spontaneously about shared circumstances. Most women are open to that sort of meeting if it feels natural, but then you have to have some sort of routine for "spontaneously" striking up a conversation so it's not without its drawbacks.

reaperman 3y ago

Meeting spouses via work isn't dead. Just dating people whom you have power over on the org structure. You can't date your N-1 or N-2 etc, but you can still date someone in an adjacent group just fine. Which honestly seems reasonable. Working in restaurants in rural areas I constantly saw managers removing shifts from women who wouldn't date them, and were very pushy/controlling over all the women they had reign over. There weren't many other jobs for most of these women - high unemployment areas.

lazide 3y ago
Nah, it’s trivial to get #metoo’d out of a job dating someone even in another department now a days. The hierarchy thing is definitely a thing, that’s a fireable offense even without false allegations. But false allegations will take someone out pretty easily regardless.