I'm not particularly knowledgeable on this either but it strikes me that women (or woman-presenting) are on average more sexualized in media and are expected to

I'm not particularly knowledgeable on this either but it strikes me that women (or woman-presenting) are on average more sexualized in media and are expected to be sexualized. Whereas men and male-presenting people don't have the same expectations so they aren't sexuality-first, person second. So I think there's some ideal there in your statement that's on the nose, anybody can express their sexuality without some societal baggage, but that's not how it is today.