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Perhaps, but that's not the connotation I take. If someone is living in the bay area asking for dating advice, saying "seriously, don't even try dating, just le

Perhaps, but that's not the connotation I take. If someone is living in the bay area asking for dating advice, saying "seriously, don't even try dating, just leave", it heavily implies the type of behavior he's referring to is the kind you should run away from. If the problem was that they are "too selective" then the advice should focus around tips for making yourself more competitive in the dating market.

anamax 3y ago
"improving" can't work for everyone when there are a limited number of slots. The solutions are win, polyandry, do without, leave, and change the demographics.
- root_axis 3y ago
  Dating isn't a zero sum game, there are hundreds of thousands of single women in the bay area at any time, more than any individual can ever possibly meet before "running out of slots".
  - anamax 3y ago
    Zero-sum has nothing to do with absolute numbers, let alone "the number you can meet". The issue is relative numbers. If there's more demand for women than there is demand for men in the relevant cohort, some men's demand must be unsatisfied (barring polyandry). That's as true for 10M men and 8M women as it is for 10 men and 8 women. (After those 8x women are matched, there are 2x men left over.) Moreover, single is the wrong characteristic - available is the right one. The ratio of available women to available men is even more lopsided than the ratio of women to men (in the relevant cohort). (It doesn't matter what definition you use for available as long as it's the same on both sides.)
  - davidguetta 3y ago
    It's a lot worse than zero sum actually. Most girls are happy not to fuck if they feel "there's better out there". Hence the decreasing degree of sex in young people to be linked with the increase of social media.
davidguetta 3y ago
If you're naturally bad at dating just don't shoot yourself in the foot in a place where there's limited supply of mates. And regarding the behavior yeah it's def said in a misognistic tone, but It's the same tone than women complaining a guy treated them like sh** because he had too many option. Nothing new, nothing to be extra offended of even if it was radically unprofessionnal (as would be a women saying stuff like that)

anamax 3y ago

"improving" can't work for everyone when there are a limited number of slots. The solutions are win, polyandry, do without, leave, and change the demographics.

root_axis 3y ago
Dating isn't a zero sum game, there are hundreds of thousands of single women in the bay area at any time, more than any individual can ever possibly meet before "running out of slots".
- anamax 3y ago
  Zero-sum has nothing to do with absolute numbers, let alone "the number you can meet". The issue is relative numbers. If there's more demand for women than there is demand for men in the relevant cohort, some men's demand must be unsatisfied (barring polyandry). That's as true for 10M men and 8M women as it is for 10 men and 8 women. (After those 8x women are matched, there are 2x men left over.) Moreover, single is the wrong characteristic - available is the right one. The ratio of available women to available men is even more lopsided than the ratio of women to men (in the relevant cohort). (It doesn't matter what definition you use for available as long as it's the same on both sides.)
- davidguetta 3y ago
  It's a lot worse than zero sum actually. Most girls are happy not to fuck if they feel "there's better out there". Hence the decreasing degree of sex in young people to be linked with the increase of social media.

davidguetta 3y ago

If you're naturally bad at dating just don't shoot yourself in the foot in a place where there's limited supply of mates. And regarding the behavior yeah it's def said in a misognistic tone, but It's the same tone than women complaining a guy treated them like sh** because he had too many option. Nothing new, nothing to be extra offended of even if it was radically unprofessionnal (as would be a women saying stuff like that)