That's true, too! Certainly apathy and incompetence are deal killers. Re values alignment, I agree that meeting in the middle is the thing. That's the alignment

That's true, too! Certainly apathy and incompetence are deal killers. Re values alignment, I agree that meeting in the middle is the thing. That's the alignment I was referring to. It would be nearly impossible for all of one's values to align with anyone else.