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I feel sorry for you that you live in the US. I don't. I've heard from colleagues from my (lovely) office that when they go to the US office the work culture fe

I feel sorry for you that you live in the US. I don't. I've heard from colleagues from my (lovely) office that when they go to the US office the work culture feels so toxic. Sounds bad, mate. I think you proved my point that WFH benefits older people and people with strong family units. I don't have any of this tying me down or supporting me, and if I lived in a hostile conservative area I would move because why would I want to be miserable about my surroundings. I'm not sure what part of 'I don't have strong family or friendship units' that you don't understand. If you hadn't had a strong family behind you on your 20s, maybe you'd understand me too. I don't feel like people at work look down on me, again, when I was in a job like that, I left. It's as simple as that. I want a workplace where I actually like the people and people are sociable. It's a priority. This weekend once again I had a terrible experience. I was distraught all weekend by my own. Today, I got properly washed and dressed, got out of my house and into the office, had some nice conversations, talked it through with a colleague who i'm actually close to during a smoke break, she gave me a hug, I ate the healthy subsidised food, bought some sleep supplements during lunch break, and it all helped me. Otherwise, I'd still be rolling around crying in my flat. What do you not get that just having SOMEWHERE to go during regular days is important to some of us. I honestly don't understand people that function without obligations like this.

pnutjam 3y ago
I understand, but I've had the reverse experience where having somewhere to go meant I was shut out of the things my friends were doing and I was stuck masking all day. I felt like an automaton who barely spoke. I urge you to find a community outside of work. Work to live, don't live to work.
- helboi4 3y ago
  Thanks. I definitely don't live to work. As I said, definitely not a type-A, workaholic who loves office surveillance. I barely care about work at all. But I do have to spend most of my life doing it. And what it provides to me is routine and security. The routine part is almost more important to me than the financial security, just because of how my brain works. As I said, without the imperative to be somewhere during (most, preferably not all) regular days, I find it hard to hold it together, especially when I still have to motivate myself to do something as pointless as work for a corporation. So yeah, I don't live to work. I couldn't care less. But I find it hard to find community at all. I try. I fail. The certainty that there is at least the people in the office keeps me going. I will continue to try.
  - pnutjam 3y ago
    Good Luck, everyone has different needs and I hope yours are satisfied.

pnutjam 3y ago

I understand, but I've had the reverse experience where having somewhere to go meant I was shut out of the things my friends were doing and I was stuck masking all day. I felt like an automaton who barely spoke. I urge you to find a community outside of work. Work to live, don't live to work.

helboi4 3y ago
Thanks. I definitely don't live to work. As I said, definitely not a type-A, workaholic who loves office surveillance. I barely care about work at all. But I do have to spend most of my life doing it. And what it provides to me is routine and security. The routine part is almost more important to me than the financial security, just because of how my brain works. As I said, without the imperative to be somewhere during (most, preferably not all) regular days, I find it hard to hold it together, especially when I still have to motivate myself to do something as pointless as work for a corporation. So yeah, I don't live to work. I couldn't care less. But I find it hard to find community at all. I try. I fail. The certainty that there is at least the people in the office keeps me going. I will continue to try.
- pnutjam 3y ago
  Good Luck, everyone has different needs and I hope yours are satisfied.