Years for me too :) You're right that she compares it to that, but my reading of it is that that is the whole disconnect/point - she does it view that way, but

Years for me too :) You're right that she compares it to that, but my reading of it is that that is the whole disconnect/point - she does it view that way, but also doesn't change it in a way that is incomprehensible to the way we view it but that is the only way it could go from their perspective. I don't think we're disagreeing, just viewing the same actions from a different lens.