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Really eye-opening for me. I grew up pretty poor, like no heat or plumbing or bed poor. And, I pretty much have all the low-status behaviors. It reminds me of r
by afpx 3y ago
Really eye-opening for me. I grew up pretty poor, like no heat or plumbing or bed poor. And, I pretty much have all the low-status behaviors. It reminds me of reading Sapolsky's "Behave" which discusses a lot about physiological changes that happen when someone grows up poor.
The question I have is what kind of benefit would one expect by displaying high-status behaviors? Like, if I practice and apply this list, can it improve my life or my relationships?
My wife grew up relatively-wealthy and she displays most of the high-status behaviors (which is often frustrating to deal with). This one I found funny: "Being surrounded by an entourage, especially of people who are physically smaller than you." My wife is slightly shorter, but she has amassed a group of friends who are all shorter than her.
- hnav 3y agoprojecting power you get challenged less, but when you do get challenged it’s much more likely that you won’t be able to back it up
- 48864w6ui 3y agoI would use this list to observe and play, not to emulate and aspire. It generally works better for someone with power to play the solidarity card with a "low" behavior than it does for someone without to attempt to play the authority card with an unsupported "high" behavior. Also, read the room: the same behavior (eg selling golden shoes) codes as both, low or high, depending upon the observer.
- AnthonBerg 3y agoActing high-status? It’s 50/50. 50% it works. Falls under “Fake it ‘till you make it”, which is actually a guarantee, not just a cynical lament. 50% it absolutely doesn’t work. Humans are exceedincly perceptive of the state of each other. We sense a lot more than we’re conscious of. We’re especially attuned to fear. Fear takes delicate and abstract forms in emotional processing and in our little tells and reveals. Acting as high-status from a status perceived as low is fundamentally anxious, low-status and dissonant. However!, becoming aware of the high/low status construction and becoming free from it while staying emotionally connected and secure… is high-status. Ah, something occurs to me now: One thing is that we often inherit or pick up various signaling behaviors we simply aren’t aware of and may be low-status. Say, family mannerisms. It’s sometimes good to see these and park them as appropriate. (This can actually reduce disssonance.) It’s good to play with this. And. Play can be high-status. Edit: Hah, one more: A reason behind the fact that acting high-status can bring high status is that we are avid social learners and imitators. If you practice high-status you get good at it and it’s possible to learn from you which confers high status, so…