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I don't have an inner monologue as I find it explained in many of these articles, in the sense that I don't notice myself addressing myself with it. I would rat

by rendx 3y ago

I don't have an inner monologue as I find it explained in many of these articles, in the sense that I don't notice myself addressing myself with it. I would rather say I have a constant _dialogue_ with what I would describe as projections of people I know. I guess I must have developed that as a strategy to prepare for conversations, to evaluate how they might respond, but now it's so automatic that it can be really annoying, and even with a lot of meditation exercise I haven't managed to switch it off yet. There's a lot of arguments going on between different "people" in my mind quite often, most of the time actually, each "telling me their opinion". Which I know is simply me imagining how they might think of something. I am also considering that this may be what people describe as "different parts of themselves"? In these sense that I sometimes find it hard to make a decision because I am "still engaged in conversations around it inside me". It also feels sometimes like I am never alone: there are always lots of witnesses to anything I do.

roykent 3y ago
This is the closest description of what my brain is like that I’ve ever read. I always attributed it to being alone most of my childhood.
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Spivak 3y ago
> There's a lot of arguments going on between different "people" in my mind quite often, most of the time actually, each "telling me their opinion". Which I know is simply me imagining how they might think of something. This is called internal family systems and it's super useful in therapy. It can be fun to give them names, likenesses and personalties too. But the value is as you say helping you identify competing motivations, where an emotional reaction might be coming from, externalize them (mindfulness for cheaters), and make decisions where there are trade-offs. I've kept my IFS since I was a tween and it's sweet to look back and see how much they've all grown and matured.
- barrysteve 3y ago
  Oh God, I lost my friend to that cult. There is a lot of resentment, anxiety and emotional turbulence for members of IFS. Constantly nurturing internal representations of the world, leaves very little time for nurturing one's self. It creates a sense of accelerationism. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
  - Obscurity4340 3y ago
    > sense of accelerationism What do you mean by this? Also, your parts are all part of you just as much as your Self is. Do you think it wise to not engage with the Parts that have a great deal of influence and input into your experience of your life or how you react/behave in relation to what happens in it?
    - barrysteve 3y ago
      Parts are part of who? me? Yes, I think it is healthy to disengage with IFS at every conceptual level.
      - Obscurity4340 3y ago
        > accelerationism Would like to know what you meant by this even so?
coldtea 3y ago
>I would rather say I have a constant _dialogue_ with what I would describe as projections of people I know. I guess I must have developed that as a strategy to prepare for conversations, to evaluate how they might respond This part is called "scripting" in asd and adhd circles.

by rendx 3y ago

roykent 3y ago

This is the closest description of what my brain is like that I’ve ever read. I always attributed it to being alone most of my childhood.

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Spivak 3y ago

> There's a lot of arguments going on between different "people" in my mind quite often, most of the time actually, each "telling me their opinion". Which I know is simply me imagining how they might think of something. This is called internal family systems and it's super useful in therapy. It can be fun to give them names, likenesses and personalties too. But the value is as you say helping you identify competing motivations, where an emotional reaction might be coming from, externalize them (mindfulness for cheaters), and make decisions where there are trade-offs. I've kept my IFS since I was a tween and it's sweet to look back and see how much they've all grown and matured.

barrysteve 3y ago
Oh God, I lost my friend to that cult. There is a lot of resentment, anxiety and emotional turbulence for members of IFS. Constantly nurturing internal representations of the world, leaves very little time for nurturing one's self. It creates a sense of accelerationism. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
- Obscurity4340 3y ago
  > sense of accelerationism What do you mean by this? Also, your parts are all part of you just as much as your Self is. Do you think it wise to not engage with the Parts that have a great deal of influence and input into your experience of your life or how you react/behave in relation to what happens in it?
  - barrysteve 3y ago
    Parts are part of who? me? Yes, I think it is healthy to disengage with IFS at every conceptual level.
    - Obscurity4340 3y ago
      > accelerationism Would like to know what you meant by this even so?

coldtea 3y ago

>I would rather say I have a constant _dialogue_ with what I would describe as projections of people I know. I guess I must have developed that as a strategy to prepare for conversations, to evaluate how they might respond This part is called "scripting" in asd and adhd circles.