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It’s also why people stay in toxic, abusive, exploitative relationships. They just get used to it.
by deadbabe 3y ago
It’s also why people stay in toxic, abusive, exploitative relationships. They just get used to it.
- jamiek88 3y agoYeah the dark side of human adaptability, we can get used to pretty much anything.
- graemep 3y agoI would say (from my own experience) it is a factor, but not the only one. There are also enormous social pressures to stay in abusive relationships: people feel free to tell you you should stay in a relationship, that it can be fixed, etc. Very few people are willing to tell someone they should leave a relationship. So, what you hear is everyone thinks it should be fixed rather than ended. There are many practical difficulties in ending a relationship too: financial, legal. There are also many things in pop culture and media that can encourage it: normalisation of what are actually controlling behaviours, for example. The even "when you are right you are wrong" trope is just one common version of this.
- deadbabe 3y agoIt hasn’t been my experience. I was often told to just leave relationships, even for little things.
- graemep 3y agoMaybe because I was married? Maybe individuals you knew? Cultural differences? Your profile says "chick" so most likely because people say different things to men and women. In general abusive behaviour by women is not taken seriously - in the UK handbook for the prosecution service it is even classified as "violence against women and girls" (although the text says men can also be victims) . Non violent abusive is not taken seriously even though "coercive control" is technically now a crime.