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Those who have children will never wonder what could have been. Even a horrific outcome answers that question. There is no other way to do do.

by RhysU 3y ago

silverquiet 3y ago
Anyone can wonder what might have been - those with 2 children could wonder how more would have changed their lives, or could wonder what might have been had they had none. Some changes we make to our lives forever close off other paths.
toomuchtodo 3y ago
Have kids, partner and I occasionally talk about what life would’ve been like if we made different choices. We’re on rails now until they’re adults, but we try to help others make different choices when the topic comes up and we are asked for our opinion based on life experience. Are you wealthy? Robust family support? Low volatility in your living and work situations? Strong relationship that will endure what children incur? Might be fine; without those components, you’re gonna have a bad time (statistically speaking and from a preponderance of the data). > There is no other way to do do. You can come to a conclusion you made a poor choice and still choose to do the best you can because it’s the right thing to do. https://thehill.com/business/3608647-new-estimate-projects-cost-of-raising-a-child-at-310k/ https://thehill.com/business/3608647-new-estimate-projects-c... http://blog.dol.gov/2023/01/24/new-childcare-data-shows-prices-are-untenable-for-families http://blog.dol.gov/2023/01/24/new-childcare-data-shows-pric... https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3171291/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3171291/ https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.901362/full https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.... https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8062063/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8062063/ (n=1, ymmv)

Those who have children will never wonder what could have been. Even a horrific outcome answers that question. There is no other way to do do.

by RhysU 3y ago

Those who have children will never wonder what could have been. Even a horrific outcome answers that question. There is no other way to do do.

silverquiet 3y ago

Anyone can wonder what might have been - those with 2 children could wonder how more would have changed their lives, or could wonder what might have been had they had none. Some changes we make to our lives forever close off other paths.

toomuchtodo 3y ago

Have kids, partner and I occasionally talk about what life would’ve been like if we made different choices. We’re on rails now until they’re adults, but we try to help others make different choices when the topic comes up and we are asked for our opinion based on life experience. Are you wealthy? Robust family support? Low volatility in your living and work situations? Strong relationship that will endure what children incur? Might be fine; without those components, you’re gonna have a bad time (statistically speaking and from a preponderance of the data). > There is no other way to do do. You can come to a conclusion you made a poor choice and still choose to do the best you can because it’s the right thing to do. https://thehill.com/business/3608647-new-estimate-projects-cost-of-raising-a-child-at-310k/ https://thehill.com/business/3608647-new-estimate-projects-c... http://blog.dol.gov/2023/01/24/new-childcare-data-shows-prices-are-untenable-for-families http://blog.dol.gov/2023/01/24/new-childcare-data-shows-pric... https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3171291/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3171291/ https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.901362/full https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.... https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8062063/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8062063/ (n=1, ymmv)