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When I was in software, my employers lied about their priorities, about what compensation they were willing to extend, about my promotion prospects, etc. When I
by poulsbohemian 3y ago
When I was in software, my employers lied about their priorities, about what compensation they were willing to extend, about my promotion prospects, etc. When I moved in to consulting, my clients lied to me about their budget, about their requirements, about their goals, about their decision making process. When I moved into real estate, I found the old phrase "buyers are liars" exists for a reason - people don't want to tell you their real budget, they sign an agreement that you are their real estate agent and then you see them at an open house with another agent...
I can't help but reflect on all the media on romantic relationships, where so often the root problem is an inability to tell the other person what you really want and need.
It's all fascinating stuff because like this author states up front - whoever it might be often would be in a more competitive or better negotiating position if they would just be honest.
- coffeebeqn 3y agoIncentives are almost never totally aligned. Think about it from the other angle. Why as a buyer would I think that you have my rather than your best interest at heart?
- poulsbohemian 3y agoBecause if I don't - or you don't believe I do - then you should fire me and find someone who understands the word "fiduciary."
- metalcrow 3y agoPlenty of people will claim to! But the issue is that you can never be sure, so you want to take extra precautions.
- poulsbohemian 3y agoI mean... bankers, lawyers, doctors, stockbrokers, heck even my kid's school teachers... we're surrounded by people we have to trust at some level are doing their job and seeking to do their best by us. Being overly skeptical does us little good.
- tomcam 3y agoI’ve been lied to by every single category of person you just enumerated. I don’t call it overly skeptical. I call it experience. Just sold my high-end home myself as a private fuck you to brokers—-and was materially lied to by the buyer’s agent.
- cxr 3y ago> I found the old phrase "buyers are liars" exists for a reason - people don't want to tell you their real budget There's a flip side: you share your budget with someone, one which is a true budget (i.e. where options that exceed the limit will be ipso facto dismissed and those that fall under the limit will considered), and you later get mystifying utterances from the other participant in that past discussion that could only make sense if the discussion had not occurred. It's like, "When I said my budget was $X, what did you think that meant?" (It would be one thing for them to decide you're lying and to state that belief as some sort of preface to an option/recommendation/whatever that clearly doesn't fall within the agreed limits. It's another to decide that you're lying and then just proceed as if everyone is working from a shared understanding/agreement by all involved about what's in the person's head and there are no conflicts. Imagine if I told you that I don't like chocolate ice cream, and then you show up to the party with chocolate ice cream and an expectation that I will eat it, not because you forgot about my distaste for it, but because you just, like, decided that actually I do like chocolate ice cream.)
- cyanydeez 3y agopart of society operates on traffic problems that are ghosts. people tell the truth until it's abused, then just stop. cars follow at safe paces until they get cut off by reckless drivers. whole hours of traffic is caused by a single guilty driver who serves into the exit lane.
- galdosdi 3y ago