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> I'm an idiot. Psychologically speaking it is not a right attitude. Martin Seligman[1] would call it a personal, pervasive and permanent causal explanation wh
by ordu 3y ago
> I'm an idiot.
Psychologically speaking it is not a right attitude. Martin Seligman[1] would call it a personal, pervasive and permanent causal explanation which is worse than bad.
> Very tired.
Much better. Still personal and pervasive, but not permanent. It assumes the possibility of a change.
> I don't check the domain or that it's under the sponsored section.
Even better. Still personal, but very specific.
> This day shall be celebrated as my personal idiocy day for many years to come.
Humor it good, but I think, you need just stop and relax and ask your the most important question: why all this happens in such a succession? What can you do to avoid piling mistakes like that in future?
I experienced something like that, and for me it was an urge to act immediately that made me to pile one mistake on top of another. I think it is fight or flight response. I've learned to detect such mental states and to slow myself. Fight of flight response is driven by hormones, so if I manage to show my mind that I'm safe and to keep this mind state for a 10 minutes, then my body cleans up adrenalin with friends from my blood, and I return to a normal mental state, I could think straight, do not make more mistakes than it is normal for me, and so on.
To make myself feel safe I normally try to imagine the worst outcome and accept it like it had happened already. Body tends to overreact to bad events like they are life-threatening, but they aren't. So accepting the worst (which is not a death or even nearly as bad) allows me to spend 10 min drinking tea or talking to a friend, and them I'm me again, not a some panic-stricken idiot.
I wonder how people manage this when their profession requires a fast reaction times, when they have no 10 min to deal with a sudden attack of hormones. Some heuristics and rules of thumb ingrained by a learning, I presume.
[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_optimism https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_optimism