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Yes agree with this. On the Homelab subreddit I’ve seen people suggest it as a bad thing if someone’s wife isn’t okay with a mess of wires accompanying a rack m

Yes agree with this. On the Homelab subreddit I’ve seen people suggest it as a bad thing if someone’s wife isn’t okay with a mess of wires accompanying a rack mount server and some other older PC’s located in a living room. They then proceed to question the posters “manliness” (in other words) for suggesting they plan on cleaning it up or moving it. Anyways to your original point I feel as if online people feel like marriage is a bunch of negative compromises that are always one sided or something. Homelabs are great but please don’t put loud servers and PC’s in the living room. :)

simoncion 3y ago
> ...I feel as if online people feel like marriage is a bunch of negative compromises that are always one sided or something. Bitching about the negative things in life with one's buddies is an activity that stretches back for hundreds of years, if not for as long as we've had language. It's a bonding activity, and an essential one. The big difference between -say- the 1980s and now is that one's buddies often congregate in clubhouses that post their conversations publicly, rather than just shooting the shit verbally. So, folks "these days" get to see how much convivial bitching between buddies there actually is out there, rather than being blissfully unaware of it. Yes, there are certainly folks who are dreadfully serious about their complaints and hate their SO with a burning passion or whatever... but those folks are certainly in the minority of complainers.
- lolinder 3y ago
  It's not just that the posts are public, it's also that some unknown portion of your "buddies" on a place like Reddit or HN are actually female. Slightly misogynistic jokes with a group of male friends who know you and know your SO (and presumably know how your relationship with her actually is) land completely differently than the same jokes in an anonymous online forum.
xandrius 3y ago
Then, honey, I shall put the homelab in the bedroom!

simoncion 3y ago

> ...I feel as if online people feel like marriage is a bunch of negative compromises that are always one sided or something. Bitching about the negative things in life with one's buddies is an activity that stretches back for hundreds of years, if not for as long as we've had language. It's a bonding activity, and an essential one. The big difference between -say- the 1980s and now is that one's buddies often congregate in clubhouses that post their conversations publicly, rather than just shooting the shit verbally. So, folks "these days" get to see how much convivial bitching between buddies there actually is out there, rather than being blissfully unaware of it. Yes, there are certainly folks who are dreadfully serious about their complaints and hate their SO with a burning passion or whatever... but those folks are certainly in the minority of complainers.

lolinder 3y ago
It's not just that the posts are public, it's also that some unknown portion of your "buddies" on a place like Reddit or HN are actually female. Slightly misogynistic jokes with a group of male friends who know you and know your SO (and presumably know how your relationship with her actually is) land completely differently than the same jokes in an anonymous online forum.

xandrius 3y ago

Then, honey, I shall put the homelab in the bedroom!