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Work is a natural place to get to know someone, but forming romantic relationships with superiors or subordinates is a minefield, and can be bad for people _oth
by abeppu 3y ago
Work is a natural place to get to know someone, but forming romantic relationships with superiors or subordinates is a minefield, and can be bad for people _other_ than those forming the relationship. Even if no one is "sell(ing) themselves out" (e.g. feelings on both sides are authentic and mutual) for any employee who's been there longer and _doesn't_ have the level of access/involvement as the new fiancee, they're still effectively getting less high level work in part because they didn't form a romantic pairing with their superior.
If the marriage is actually going to happen, one of them should work elsewhere. Possibly already enough damage has been done, and one of them should work elsewhere. If their relationship is strong, it will still be strong if they're not also co-founders. If their marriage is going to last the test of time, they may be better off not having both their careers in one company basket. And team members should not need to constantly second guess whether their advancement is dependent on their work or the degree of intimacy of their relationship with their founders.