>The mature, productive move is to try to help. If you truly cannot level someone up you may need to make a difficult decision, but that doesn’t at all mean yo

>The mature, productive move is to try to help. If you truly cannot level someone up you may need to make a difficult decision, but that doesn’t at all mean you need to be a huge dick. I've been on the receiving end of this before. The problem is there are a lot of folks out there with tremendous subject matter intelligence, and often times they are pushed into management. A good amount of these folks don't really have the skills to deal with people as people, not as subordinates. They "teach" to the best of their ability, but this, sometimes, comes up short, and their way of dealing with the people they can't "teach" often involves making a tough decision. They don't think their way of doing things is dick-ish, and in my case, the person wasn't intentionally trying to be a dick, he just happened to act in a manner that made everyone think he was. Human relationship dynamics are tricky, and doubly tricky in the working world. Everyone is different, and this can make things outright impossible when it comes to setting expectations and managing people in a uniform or case-by-case way. Thankfully, I don't manage people for a living.