Shaming the choice to have children by those who are not "married, employed, [or] mature" is certainly a problem and we should address it, but another even-more

Shaming the choice to have children by those who are not "married, employed, [or] mature" is certainly a problem and we should address it, but another even-more-impactful problem we need to address is the problem of people not being married, employed, or mature. It also seems intuitively wrong to suggest that the shaming of the choice to have children, in general, eclipses the shaming of the choice not to have children.