A few things glossed over: - the shame in question might actually be about whether one can provide a sufficient and healthy environment for the kids to grow up

A few things glossed over: - the shame in question might actually be about whether one can provide a sufficient and healthy environment for the kids to grow up and thrive in an ever-changing world, the pace of which is increasing exponentially. It might be good to be circumspect about having children due to the fact that we are economically bifurcated into very-rich and increasingly-poor (in most places - it's understandable that if you're from Sweden like the authors you might not feel that quite so much b/c you live in one of the few examples of modern governance done kinda-right). - 'outcasts' and 'misfits' are, in most places in the world (again, a nordic caveat is important here) a GOOD thing. The state of culture rit-large these days is pretty abysmal, and if you happen to be an outlier you actually represent a potential path for survivability given that the apparent thrust of most of the critical mass of society is self-destruction. Personally, I blame the news cycle and social media for this. - Hyper-orthodox anything is not a great example of how to be. It's a very all-or-nothing strategy in a world that increasingly requires elasticity.