Beaut advice. Too many grifters saying the right things but doing the wrong things. From what I've seen it's mostly self-deception - grifters often don't alway

Beaut advice. Too many grifters saying the right things but doing the wrong things. From what I've seen it's mostly self-deception - grifters often don't always seem to be consciously aware that they are doing it - and they usually can't be confronted about it. The conscious takers seem to eventually come a cropper in my limited experience. I see it play out again and again in relationships between a giver and a taker. The giver keeps giving and the taker keeps taking. Often with both seemingly unaware of what they are doing - and rationally I find the giver is at much at fault as the taker - certainly you see people begin a new relationship with the same destructive roles. As a sweeping generalisation I see more women putting themselves into the giver role, and I see fewer people learn to manage it. I have a 60+ female friend and a 50+ male friend who just avoid all relationships as a way to avoid feeling resentful from giving too much. Giver/giver relationships work but still require care because it's so easy to slip into giver/taker. Not quite as common to see the giving/taking in business settings (in New Zealand at least), although really common to see givers in nursing and teaching.