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No mention of what seems more likely to me than it being down to prestige or feelings of self-worth: if you're making a fortune, you may well have huge mortgage
by blacksmith_tb 3y ago
No mention of what seems more likely to me than it being down to prestige or feelings of self-worth: if you're making a fortune, you may well have huge mortgage payments, car payments, expenses related to your children, your parents, etc. 'Escaping' those is likely much harder than finding the confidence to switch careers.
- lapcat 3y agoHouses can be sold, especially in this market, a seller's market. Cars can be sold. Children don't need to be spoiled.
- ncgl 3y agoAgreed, the original commenter was highlighting how difficult those decisions can be psychologically. I mean, you try to convince your spouse to sell the house and move into a cottage and see how it goes.
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- lapcat 3y agoA "cottage" sounds like an exaggeration, but in any case if your spouse would prefer that you spend endless hours at work rather than home with the family, then you've actually got bigger problems than "golden handcuffs".
- silverquiet 3y agoHusbands can be divorced. Alimony/child support can be ordered.
- lapcat 3y agoIf your spouse married you for your money, then you probably should get divorced. Unless of course you only wanted a "trophy", in which case you got exactly what you bargained up for. (And don't say you married for kids if you spend all your time at work instead of with them.)
- silverquiet 3y agoIf you've found a woman who really will love you in sickness and poverty, cherish that because I sure haven't; it always seems that there's a transactional nature to things and ends that have to be kept up. Certainly I've never been married.
- lapcat 3y ago> If you've found a woman who really will love you in sickness and poverty This is neither sickness nor poverty. It's simply not being fabuously wealthy. Another comment talked about living in a "cottage". Why do we need to exaggerate? Not having a high-earning job simply makes you normal, like most other people, indeed most other married people.
- silverquiet 3y agoI live quite modestly and always have. A cottage would not have been a bad description for my house. I actually like living that way, eating simple food and driving a beater car, but people do not seem to consider it attractive. Se la vi.
- jncfhnb 3y agoPerhaps such women prefer men who don’t think about women in such terms
- pokepim 3y ago[dead]
- mancerayder 3y agoAnd expensive cities with.. of course return to office! So crazy high rents. It's more than golden handcuffs, since it means moving town.
- fshbbdssbbgdd 3y agoCertainly the trick is to choose not to make these expensive commitments to spend money before you earn it. It’s much harder to claw back once you and your family get used to luxuries.
- nunez 3y agoway way way easier said than done for many people