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If a person is debating a decision, there’s no need to stress out about what advice to give him or her. Forget what you know. And don’t talk about your experien
by xoac 3y ago
If a person is debating a decision, there’s no need to stress out about what advice to give him or her. Forget what you know. And don’t talk about your experience unless the person is specifically asking for it in hoping to learn from you (see #5). The person already knows the answer or the best solution—or at least, has a preference. All you have to do here is just repeat what he’s saying back to him.
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How is this not toxic? If I'm talking to someone I want to know what they think.
- JR1427 3y agoI think it depends on whether someone has actually explicitly asked you for advice or not. If they have, then you should be careful to consider their position regarding this decision. But if they haven't actually asked, then probably best to not advise which decision to make. I would think that trying to help _them_ make the decision would be a good thing to do, though.