I question it quite often. I think relating can be very useful for both people involved. I do think that sometimes it may be useful for one and not the other, b

I question it quite often. I think relating can be very useful for both people involved. I do think that sometimes it may be useful for one and not the other, but I don't think it's as simple as saying to not "one-up" someone. The intention may not to be to one up and yet the other perceives it that way. Or the intention actually could be the one up and the other _doesn't_ perceive it that way. Overall I think we talk way too much about getting better at listening and not nearly enough at getting better at talking. EDIT: OK, I can get better at listening/reading lol, as the author said the following: > One reason is this myth: that the good listener just listens. This egregious misunderstanding actually leads to a lot of bad listening, and I’ll tell you why: because a good listener is actually someone who is good at talking.