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> You know the obvious no-brainer ones already—don’t interrupt, don’t look at your phone, make (frequent, but not creepily constant) eye contact, turn your body
by aidenn0 3y ago
> You know the obvious no-brainer ones already—don’t interrupt, don’t look at your phone, make (frequent, but not creepily constant) eye contact, turn your body towards the speaker…
These "obvious" things are so unnatural for me that doing them consumes so much of my attention that I don't actually hear anything the person is saying.
- jimkleiber 3y agoI'm not sure what you meant, you doing them or the other person doing them?
- aidenn0 3y agoMe doing them. E.g if I'm making eye contact with you, I'm thinking about making eye contact with you, not what you're saying.
- jimkleiber 3y agoAhhh, ok, I hear you now. I wonder if just practicing the skills more, maybe even in a practice environment, would help you feel more comfortable with them. Have you found that over time there have been some things you feel more and more comfortable doing?