I agree with most of your comment, thank you. It was a good response to what I wrote. >so it's very unfair to associate him with men who harm women. I wasn't

I agree with most of your comment, thank you. It was a good response to what I wrote. >so it's very unfair to associate him with men who harm women. I wasn't associating the person in the elevator with people who victim blame. I was speaking of people who responded in a backlash to her video describing the incident. Allow me to expand on that line you quoted to clarify. Let's take this comment, for instance: >The reason there was a huge shitstorm over it was that all he did was to ask -- he didn't do anything else. What he's doing here is invaliding her discomfort. He's implying she should have some way to detect a rapist and her danger-detection is faulty. She shouldn't have been uncomfortable because he didn't rape her. It only works in hindsight and it's "not" victim blaming only because she wasn't victimized. Claiming a person should know someone is not a rapist necessarily requires thinking a person can know someone is a rapist. edit: removed repetitive sentence for clarity.