Step 1 is identifying the problem, step 2 is trying to fix it. I was an absolute door mat style of people pleaser. I just started saying no to people about thi

Step 1 is identifying the problem, step 2 is trying to fix it. I was an absolute door mat style of people pleaser. I just started saying no to people about things that were low-risk, and seeing what happened. I still get massive anxiety from it, but I can say no like a champion now. Probably a little too often, if I'm honest. I did not seek out therapy, but probably should've. If you're looking for advice - spend some time on this. My experience is that people who have negative personality traits, and try to blame the way they were raised, are not taken serious as adults in the working world. If you're not looking for advice - then just tell me to fuck right off back to where I came from. No problem, either way.