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I did this when I was younger and learned a lot of social skills this way. I just went out to the bars alone. - You can't rely on anyone else to have fun so yo
by ativzzz 3y ago
I did this when I was younger and learned a lot of social skills this way. I just went out to the bars alone.
- You can't rely on anyone else to have fun so you have to talk to people or you're bored
- Alcohol helps lower your inhibitions so it becomes easier (relying on it always is no good but alcohol can be a tool just like any other thing)
- if you say something stupid or someone has a bad reaction or doesn't wanna talk you can say "have a good one" and peace out
If you don't know where to start with talking to people, comment on something they're wearing, then ask them followup questions and be genuinely interested and try to make jokes. If you run out of things to say, "have a good one" and peace out
Great way to learn to read people too because often people are too polite to tell you to fuck off but their body language suggests it so I learned to pick up on a lot of more subtle cues I didn't really see before
- ametrau 3y agoMaybe good for social skills (maybe) but do you maintain lasting connections with people you meet like this?
- ryanchants 3y agoThe real key to that part is to find a local bar and be a regular, so you run into the same people over and over.
- randomdata 3y agoSure, why not? Not everyone will be looking for those lasting connections, but that's true of everywhere you go.
- ativzzz 3y agoThe OP specifically said > The goal is not to build friendships but to have substantial "in the moment" interactions While everyone else is suggesting activities to build friendships I can also say that some of these one time interactions i've had at bars/festivals/wherever are some of my most memorable and most influential interactions
- 0x008 3y agoI would be very cautious when you learn a new skill like talking to random people and building new connections - which can be extremely rewarding - and connecting that in your brain to alcohol.