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You’ve already been called out but I feel like confessing that I thought the “no kids” decision was selfish until I had kids. For various reasons I won’t bore
by xp84 3y ago
You’ve already been called out but I feel like confessing that I thought the “no kids” decision was selfish until I had kids.
For various reasons I won’t bore people with, I now go out of my way to tell young people that they should feel absolutely no obligation to do have kids. Yes, as animals it’s our collective responsibility to bring up the next generation of our species, but that doesn’t mean every individual should, and it’s awful to feel forced into doing so if you aren’t comfortable with the very real risks. And the risks are worse than I ever thought. And I don’t even have it the worst.
- futureshock 3y agoSorry to hear that. My mom and two of my sisters and my brother in law all work in childhood disability social work. When I was young I went on a lot of home visits or visited my mom’s workplace. The bundle of joy narrative broke down for me at a pretty early age as I witnessed a lot of heartbreak and impossible struggles. Funny how those stories never seem to show up on social media or only the ones with happy endings.
- xp84 3y agoYup. I felt like some kind of massive failure or something for the first 4 years because I didn’t even know what was wrong and I basically didn’t know any other parents had struggles this bad. Now I still feel terrible because everything sucks, but I know it’s not all my fault or normal.