My first line sympathizes with the truth that denying yourself is detrimental. In my next bit I am suggesting that you do not need to sacrifice your "deeper ne

My first line sympathizes with the truth that denying yourself is detrimental. In my next bit I am suggesting that you do not need to sacrifice your "deeper needs" (to use your language) in order to have a meaningful family life. Further, I am suggesting that there are auxiliary benefits to the particular technique that I propose.