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The reason to rehearse martial arts is to get in fewer fights. You spar to drive home the point that a fight entails the other person landing punches and all yo
by brudgers 3y ago
The reason to rehearse martial arts is to get in fewer fights. You spar to drive home the point that a fight entails the other person landing punches and all you will walk away with is some bruises.
Nobody likes you more because you won the argument. "Yes, and..." is much better tool. Even when dealing with socio-paths because saying one thing and doing another is also useful.
What I mean is that what works for me is to realize that my deficit is social skills. The solutions are negotiation and forbearance, not violence.
Good luck.
- rcarr 3y agoIt's funny that you mention "yes and..." here because I've been going to as many improv lessons and jams as I possibly can over the last two months and my ability to socialize, memorise things and general mood has improved exponentially. I've literally had suicidal thoughts for years - all gone. I genuinely think modern society is really fucking us up and improv is the antidote. You're just allowed to be silly, have fun and be in the moment. It's all the social rules and fear that makes you withdrawn and slow. Improv helps you get rid of all that sludge.
- brudgers 3y agoHN introduced me to Yes-and. I've never done improv. Using it instead of the the-problem-with-that-is I was raised on has improved my life as well.
- zimpenfish 3y ago> You're just allowed to be silly, have fun and be in the moment. That's still allowed outside of improv! > my ability to socialize, memorise things and general mood has improved exponentially But that does sound like a good outcome of your improv experience, definitely.