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> Nothing is stopping you from throwing things away The post mentioned a partner and kids (literally dependents) as something acquired. Not so socially accepta

> Nothing is stopping you from throwing things away The post mentioned a partner and kids (literally dependents) as something acquired. Not so socially acceptable to throw away, though that doesn't mean it isn't done with some regularity.

015a 3y ago
Sure, that's fair; I hope I didn't imply that would be acceptable. I don't want to sound callous, nor make assumptions about the author's life situation. I don't know where they're at, and if they're reading this just recognize what I'm about to say may or may not apply to you. However: I've found the mental state communicated in this piece to be more rare among people in committed relationships, and even rarer among those with kids. Definitely not zero; just more rare. Please, do not interpret that previous statement to mean "oh, this dude on the internet is saying all my problems will be solved if I just find love and make a family" because: - Obviously this is not easy, and only a sociopath would actually recommend this as an attainable way to improve your frame of mind; and - Assuming that walking this path will improve a poor frame of mind is tenuous; I'm stating observations on the outcomes, not on the path toward achieving those outcomes; and - It is deeply countervalent to a genuinely great point the author made in the blog post, that you shouldn't assume the American Atomic Family path our forebearers paved for us is what is right for you.
- ramijames 3y ago
  I have a wife and three kids. It's not that.
- silverquiet 3y ago
  I think the point is more that you are put on this path without really thinking about it, and it then you are locked into it. I can sympathize with at least the education and job part of it. I did all that and eventually got laid off anyway and figured I had fallen off some path or other, and then looked back and realized the path was never really all that proscribed.

015a 3y ago

Sure, that's fair; I hope I didn't imply that would be acceptable. I don't want to sound callous, nor make assumptions about the author's life situation. I don't know where they're at, and if they're reading this just recognize what I'm about to say may or may not apply to you. However: I've found the mental state communicated in this piece to be more rare among people in committed relationships, and even rarer among those with kids. Definitely not zero; just more rare. Please, do not interpret that previous statement to mean "oh, this dude on the internet is saying all my problems will be solved if I just find love and make a family" because: - Obviously this is not easy, and only a sociopath would actually recommend this as an attainable way to improve your frame of mind; and - Assuming that walking this path will improve a poor frame of mind is tenuous; I'm stating observations on the outcomes, not on the path toward achieving those outcomes; and - It is deeply countervalent to a genuinely great point the author made in the blog post, that you shouldn't assume the American Atomic Family path our forebearers paved for us is what is right for you.

ramijames 3y ago
I have a wife and three kids. It's not that.
silverquiet 3y ago
I think the point is more that you are put on this path without really thinking about it, and it then you are locked into it. I can sympathize with at least the education and job part of it. I did all that and eventually got laid off anyway and figured I had fallen off some path or other, and then looked back and realized the path was never really all that proscribed.