I don't disagree. But the broader point is that whenever you have a strong and weak entity interacting, you can always find a way to frame anything the stronge

I don't disagree. But the broader point is that whenever you have a strong and weak entity interacting, you can always find a way to frame anything the stronger entity does as "violence". Not sharing your wealth and power? Violence by indirectly causing suffering with your hoarding. Sharing your wealth and power? Violence by harming the weaker entity's ability to take care of themselves and be independent. At the end of the day, some armchair critic is always going to accuse the stronger/wealthier party of violence, so accusations of such lose their meaning and people increasingly ignore the boy who cried wolf.