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I couldn't honestly do that, the nostalgia would be too much for me, even for only 10 years ago, even 5. And then how do you process past relationships and mar
by paganel 3y ago
I couldn't honestly do that, the nostalgia would be too much for me, even for only 10 years ago, even 5.
And then how do you process past relationships and marriages? Or the death of loved ones? Or other such traumatic experiences?
- sourcecodeplz 3y agoYeah. I remember vacations the most. And that is enough for me. Live your life one day at a time.
- em-bee 3y agoi note them with a simple entry. or i describe the details of the wedding or funeral, and other relevant facts, but i don't write about my feelings. for one, i consider the diary as something others may read some day, i don't necessarily want share my feelings. but also, at least from my experience so far, reading about the facts of a traumatic experience helps me remember the feelings i had at the time. so rereading entries and recalling events is how i process these.
- paganel 3y agoHonest props to you for managing to do that, you're a much stronger person than I am.
- em-bee 3y agothanks. but i am not sure if it counts, as i rarely go back to actually reread stuff. i am just writing what i have to deal with anyways, as it happens. i mean to say that if i do have the strength to deal with such events, being able to write about it in my diary is not necessarily an indication of that. it rather manifests in other ways. if i may say so, i sense a certain "i wish i had the strength to do that" in your comment. i am afraid that what comes across as strength is rather a weakness, a sort of inability to be affected by these events. it took me decades to understand where that comes from, and still has me wonder, why.
- zvmaz 3y ago"I don't want to remember nothing, nothing, you understand?!" [1] [1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OLv6ycYcpGI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OLv6ycYcpGI
- firtoz 3y agoThere are certain philosophical approaches to this problem. Quite a few of them start with: Why do you think that revisiting such things would distress you? How do you process them when you remember them occasionally without specific prompting?
- Vivtek 3y agoThat's real. There are whole years of my email archives I have troubles looking into.
- passion__desire 3y agoTime heals (i.e. dampens) not just extreme sadness but also irrational exuberance.