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If you believe in morals you'd believe so. They're filtering a person's thoughts when dating. Dating itself can be seen as immoral, especially in hookup culture

by graphe 3y ago

If you believe in morals you'd believe so. They're filtering a person's thoughts when dating. Dating itself can be seen as immoral, especially in hookup culture. If someone feels like they're speaking to grammarly, or a generic response from google they heard before, they revert to judging you by your looks as usual. If you are ugly none of the AI crap will work.

deprecative 3y ago
If you're ugly you're not getting matches anyway. It does nothing for ugly people. At the end of the day a person has to be attractive to some positive degree in order to find a partner.
- HPsquared 3y ago
  It's very non-linear, such that conversation quality doesn't matter much. A person below the attractiveness threshold gets basically no matches, so no chance to talk. A person above the threshold gets a huge number of "already motivated" matches, so no need for good talk. Conversation quality only matters for the small number of marginal cases (maybe 20% of users)
  - graphe 3y ago
    It's also algorithmically based. My number was likely shadow banned and I got basically no good matches ever. My friend used my number since he ran out and determined it gave him less matches, less quality, and even overseas it was terrible with HIS photos and my number. The funny characteristic was that the number also matched me with my long term girlfriend and got him a single girl that he was interested in. I generally agree with your assessment, but I'd say out of 20% you still couldn't determine the AI user's intentions. I've texted for my friends and I could get them a date or hookup but honestly when there's no motivation for them to do it themselves, it's a waste of time, they were not interested except to determine their conversation skills were the issue and not their looks.
prepend 3y ago
It’s a tool. Is it immoral to hire a dating coach to help with your profile? Or a coach to revise your resume? I think there’s some balance, but I think the key point is that the person takes responsibility for however they put together messages. Although interestingly, I guess it worked for the other person as they dated for a bit and I think he achieved his goal of dating this person. If they are literally just having ChatGPT write messages whole cloth then they will suffer detection in person. But I think that’s more stupidity than morality. I did have a friend mention how she dated someone who was amazing and thoughtful by text but very different in person or on the phone.

by graphe 3y ago

deprecative 3y ago

If you're ugly you're not getting matches anyway. It does nothing for ugly people. At the end of the day a person has to be attractive to some positive degree in order to find a partner.

HPsquared 3y ago
It's very non-linear, such that conversation quality doesn't matter much. A person below the attractiveness threshold gets basically no matches, so no chance to talk. A person above the threshold gets a huge number of "already motivated" matches, so no need for good talk. Conversation quality only matters for the small number of marginal cases (maybe 20% of users)
- graphe 3y ago
  It's also algorithmically based. My number was likely shadow banned and I got basically no good matches ever. My friend used my number since he ran out and determined it gave him less matches, less quality, and even overseas it was terrible with HIS photos and my number. The funny characteristic was that the number also matched me with my long term girlfriend and got him a single girl that he was interested in. I generally agree with your assessment, but I'd say out of 20% you still couldn't determine the AI user's intentions. I've texted for my friends and I could get them a date or hookup but honestly when there's no motivation for them to do it themselves, it's a waste of time, they were not interested except to determine their conversation skills were the issue and not their looks.

prepend 3y ago

It’s a tool. Is it immoral to hire a dating coach to help with your profile? Or a coach to revise your resume? I think there’s some balance, but I think the key point is that the person takes responsibility for however they put together messages. Although interestingly, I guess it worked for the other person as they dated for a bit and I think he achieved his goal of dating this person. If they are literally just having ChatGPT write messages whole cloth then they will suffer detection in person. But I think that’s more stupidity than morality. I did have a friend mention how she dated someone who was amazing and thoughtful by text but very different in person or on the phone.