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Eh, I would expand that quote to include "to people who are polite to you" in both cases. Being polite to rude people is a good way for them to try to take adv
by imiric 3y ago
Eh, I would expand that quote to include "to people who are polite to you" in both cases.
Being polite to rude people is a good way for them to try to take advantage of you. At the very least, if you don't enjoy being rude, it's best to ignore them.
In the case of the article, HR messed up by being rude to someone who was polite, and so, got the well deserved cold shoulder.
- lf-non 3y agoThis may be culture specific but I wouldn't consider the cold shoulder response to be impolite.
- imiric 3y agoMe neither. Travis took the ignore approach. But I would certainly find it acceptable to respond rudely to rudeness. Tit for tat.
- AnimalMuppet 3y agoRudeness can feel good in the moment. After the moment passes, though, I don't really like myself after I've been rude. That's not who I want to be, even if it is deserved. On the other hand, last night I was talking to a cop. He said that, in dealing with unruly people, you have to use swear words if you want to get through to them. It's the language that they understand. So there may be a place where rudeness is the only thing that will work. It's probably not every time I'm rude, though...
- imiric 3y agoI agree, with both your dislike of being rude, and with your cop friend. But responding rudely to rudeness is not about it feeling good. Most people don't enjoy being rude, which is why we avoid it. But sometimes it's necessary in order for the other person to understand that this is not acceptable behavior. Otherwise, they will continue to be rude both to you and others.
- stetrain 3y agoBeing polite doesn't mean agreeing to all requests. You can politely and firmly decline.
- veunes 3y agoYeah... You pretty much can do anything politely