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> It used to be common to call or even drop by unannounced to check on people. This has been considered rude at least since my parents were kids in the 1950s.

> It used to be common to call or even drop by unannounced to check on people. This has been considered rude at least since my parents were kids in the 1950s. I would imagine it was a lot more common before the telephone at home was widespread, but I've always found turning up unannounced to be rude.

xboxnolifes 3y ago
Very regionally dependent, and very relationship dependent.
stevage 3y ago
It was relatively common for me in the 80s but dropped out in the 90s.
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xetplan 3y ago
No, this is just completely wrong and ridiculous. People did this all the time until txting was common. Once txt was common there was no reason to just drop by someone's place randomly without giving them a heads up.
- phone8675309 3y ago
  What makes your lived experience more correct than the lived experience of my grandparents and parents who lived in the time? Once the telephone was popular in the US this was something that people in our circle just stopped doing. All it took was a 30 second phone call to say "hey, can if I head over if you're not busy?" (and the answer was almost always yes, I'll agree that is likely different than today) to make sure, so that was considered the polite thing to do in our working class semi-rural midwest circle. If you're living truly in a rural area where you're sharing a party line with others and the nearest place is over a mile away then yes, I'll concede, that was probably much more normal.
  - asciimov 3y ago
    It’s neat how there can be vast differences both regionally and within social circles. Here in Texas (I’ve been in central, west, and panhandle) dropping by was common through even the mid-2000s. While I don’t do this much anymore, for my parents and their friend groups it is still done. Of course there are some unwritten rules and some people that you do call ahead, but for many it’s still an acceptable practice.
npteljes 3y ago
Very much dependent on culture, relationships and individuals, but I hate it myself as well. I even hate it when my phone rings unannounced.

xboxnolifes 3y ago

Very regionally dependent, and very relationship dependent.

stevage 3y ago

It was relatively common for me in the 80s but dropped out in the 90s.

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xetplan 3y ago

No, this is just completely wrong and ridiculous. People did this all the time until txting was common. Once txt was common there was no reason to just drop by someone's place randomly without giving them a heads up.

phone8675309 3y ago
What makes your lived experience more correct than the lived experience of my grandparents and parents who lived in the time? Once the telephone was popular in the US this was something that people in our circle just stopped doing. All it took was a 30 second phone call to say "hey, can if I head over if you're not busy?" (and the answer was almost always yes, I'll agree that is likely different than today) to make sure, so that was considered the polite thing to do in our working class semi-rural midwest circle. If you're living truly in a rural area where you're sharing a party line with others and the nearest place is over a mile away then yes, I'll concede, that was probably much more normal.
- asciimov 3y ago
  It’s neat how there can be vast differences both regionally and within social circles. Here in Texas (I’ve been in central, west, and panhandle) dropping by was common through even the mid-2000s. While I don’t do this much anymore, for my parents and their friend groups it is still done. Of course there are some unwritten rules and some people that you do call ahead, but for many it’s still an acceptable practice.

npteljes 3y ago

Very much dependent on culture, relationships and individuals, but I hate it myself as well. I even hate it when my phone rings unannounced.