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Anxiety is definitely not always rational; you can feel anxious without being able to identify a good cause. But knowing (or being told) you "shoudln't" be fee

Anxiety is definitely not always rational; you can feel anxious without being able to identify a good cause. But knowing (or being told) you "shoudln't" be feeling anxious doesn't really make the anxiety go away. So now you're anxious AND feeling guilty about it. Not a healthy combination. "Just stop thinking about it" is not that helpful either. Overthinking happens internally, whether it's being expressed outwardly or not. I don't think diagnosis is a trigger, rather the opposite; it's the first step to understanding your own condition and ways to cope. "It's not just me" is a powerful realization.

wara23arish 3y ago
My worry is that this diagnosis will make the person feel that this is an insurmountable problem or something that is permanent rather than a phase that will pass. I truly believed this is something everyone goes through, but Im not sure now since my partner says its not. My goal is trying to make her realize the absurdity of this anxiety and not that she shouldn’t have it all. Maybe even laugh at ourself in the process. But i honestly think “just stop thinking “ helps, you do that by staying busy, meditation hobbies etc.. “We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them” Khalil Gebran. Is something that I try to remember that helps me
- gorlilla 3y ago
  Some people can't 'just stop thinking' though. Or meditation is only a breather; not a 'reset' back into 'normal' thought patterns. Intrusive thoughts and anxiety are a massive burden in my everyday life. Sometimes the thoughts just can't be tamed or sated and they start wreaking havoc on everything around me. Time is usually the best solution... "this will pass". But sometimes the thoughts push time to an unmanageable scale. My wife tries to empathize. She too thinks everyone has these worries or anxieties... and I don't disagree. The 'disorder' is that mine occur so frequently, with such intensity and without relent... to the point my ability to 'function normally' is severely compromised. We all go through it, sure, but some of us can never just stop going through it. Imagine you have a leaky roof. You have to deal with it whenever it rains, but it's still manageable enough that you haven't climbed up there to repair it yet. My roof has a 10' hole, and I live under a waterfall in a tropical rainforest. But it's OK, because the nearby volcano helps keep me warm and dry....

wara23arish 3y ago

My worry is that this diagnosis will make the person feel that this is an insurmountable problem or something that is permanent rather than a phase that will pass. I truly believed this is something everyone goes through, but Im not sure now since my partner says its not. My goal is trying to make her realize the absurdity of this anxiety and not that she shouldn’t have it all. Maybe even laugh at ourself in the process. But i honestly think “just stop thinking “ helps, you do that by staying busy, meditation hobbies etc.. “We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them” Khalil Gebran. Is something that I try to remember that helps me

gorlilla 3y ago
Some people can't 'just stop thinking' though. Or meditation is only a breather; not a 'reset' back into 'normal' thought patterns. Intrusive thoughts and anxiety are a massive burden in my everyday life. Sometimes the thoughts just can't be tamed or sated and they start wreaking havoc on everything around me. Time is usually the best solution... "this will pass". But sometimes the thoughts push time to an unmanageable scale. My wife tries to empathize. She too thinks everyone has these worries or anxieties... and I don't disagree. The 'disorder' is that mine occur so frequently, with such intensity and without relent... to the point my ability to 'function normally' is severely compromised. We all go through it, sure, but some of us can never just stop going through it. Imagine you have a leaky roof. You have to deal with it whenever it rains, but it's still manageable enough that you haven't climbed up there to repair it yet. My roof has a 10' hole, and I live under a waterfall in a tropical rainforest. But it's OK, because the nearby volcano helps keep me warm and dry....