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Show HN: A Tool to Help You Understand Your Anxious Friends Better
Hey everyone! We made a tool that shows you how someone with anxiety feels when they get messages. It's all about getting each other and being kind. If you want to help your friends or family who get anxious, this could help. Give it a look and see what you think. It's a way to be nicer to each other.
- guhcampos 3y agoIt's very innacurate. I wrote a single message: "I need to talk to you" without further context, and its anxiety is on the greens.
- mustafabisic1 3y agoAs somebody who tend to overthink and had some issues with anxiety disorder last year, this is spot on.
- jeanmayer 3y agoyeah, my wife is very anxious and it was very difficult for me to understand her, especially in the beginning, when I didn't take anxiety very seriously.
- quantumensert 3y ago[dead]
- navjack27 3y agoSome of this is spot on. I talked to it the way that I like to be talked to and I immediately diffused its anxiety. Then I played around with some other unorthodox situations and I completely confused it. 10/10
- mapster 3y agoVery nice. I made it anxious by talking about weekend plans then how I was going to a show with all my closest friends. Then I begged the bot to join us. The anxiety went away but I made it worse again by begging. This is spot on.
- badcppdev 3y agoI talked about my cute cat which made it happy and then I asked it to take care of my cat tomorrow. That triggered an anxious response which kind of makes sense but I wonder if a more accurate response would have been not replying at all. Or agreeing to the direct request
- 240zShane 3y agoThat is a good point. I think anxiety can take many different forms one being lying and just saying yes to something, creating excuses, or not responding. It would be cool to simulate all the different potential responses.
- cgrs 3y agoI felt bad when I tried to trigger the anxiety on the simulator. Good work! As a suggestion, I'd like to see it translated to other languages
- jeanmayer 3y agothanks for the suggestion :) We'll definitely add support for other languages
- hansoolo 3y agoI keep getting "An error occurred, refresh the page and try again." when trying it out on Firefox on Android. :/
- jeanmayer 3y agoI'll take look! Thanks for the feedback and I'm sorry about that :/
- hansoolo 3y agoNo problem. I will just try again later. I am having this bookmarked. Thanks for making this anyway. A friend of mine suffers from anxiety and I want to get to know his perspective better.
- throawayonthe 3y ago[dead]
- wara23arish 3y agoI like the idea! Im getting an error tho:/ Side note: Im tired of everybody being anxious, Im an immigrant to the states and I’ve noticed that most of my friends who are anxious are born and raised there. While the opposite is far from true despite poverty, uncertainty, looming war & a future with no positive outlook for the country. I often struggle to emphasize cause I don’t see value of overthinking/discussing every little thought that comes to our head. Im struggling more with this recently because my partner has been diagnosed with “OCD thinking “ after just 3 therapy sessions and is even considering medication. I thought everybody overthinks, we just need to learn not to give every thought importance/attention and try to avoid triggers ie: self diagnosing. If my rant is not suitable here, then I’ll delete my comment. I would appreciate any help however.
- chownie 3y agoWhat help are you looking for? What do you expect the answer to your partner's problems to be?
- wara23arish 3y agoBasically, my heart wants to tell her, labeling this as a condition and overthinking about being an overthinker will make it worse. Just stay busy and it will work out. But then ill be deemed as insensitive etc… Ive tried to share what Ive done, like simply not allow myself google a medical condition beyond 10 minutes but ive gotten negative reactions.
- metabagel 3y ago> Just stay busy and it will work out. Your partner probably needs more tools than that. It's easy enough to say that she shouldn't dwell on negative thoughts, but that's hard to do in practice. Therapy can help. Meditation can help. Quitting drinking alcohol can help. Exercise can help. Maintaining a sense of humor can help.
- metabagel 3y agoSomething else you can do is to not add to your partner's anxiety. Be understanding of her flaws and failures, just as you would like her to be understanding of yours.
- valcard 3y agoHi, great idea! I'm also receiving an error. but given it works, I could see myself bookmarking the site before texting my friend lol
- skymast 3y ago[dead]
- desdenova 3y agoI think I pushed the simulator too far with my "hello" message and it crashed. Btw, The sample messages animation may look cool, but forcing the focus to them makes the UI annoying on mobile. I was trying to read the site's header and the page kept scrolling to each automated message there.
- pbronez 3y agoVery cool idea, not currently working.
- jeanmayer 3y agoIt's working now, I'm sorry about that
- jdthedisciple 3y agodoesn't work An error occurred, refresh the page and try again. i guess it's overloaded currently ...
- jeanmayer 3y agoYes, it was. I fixed it yesterday, I'm sorry about that
- godelski 3y agoI just typed "hey" and then the 3 dots appear, keep moving for about a minute, stop, and then an error appears. 10/10, I have to say that this is very accurate. Bot perfectly simulated what happens to me when someone types "hey" into chat. Me too bot, me too.
- jeanmayer 3y agothat's perfect, isn't it? btw, I just fixed it. I'm sorry about that, we've hit some limits but now I increased it and we are good to go
- 01HNNWZ0MV43FF 3y agotbh we're right, it's the world that must change: https://www.nohello.com/ https://www.nohello.com/
- godelski 3y agoYeah I think it is people being overfit. They understand that "hi" and "hello" are words that begin a conversation but don't understand their purpose. On the phone it can be to verify the other person can hear you or is there. In person it is like a wake word to grab attention before you start saying what you really want to say because if you jump straight in someone isn't going to shift their attention instantaneously. It just has no place in asynchronous communication other than patterns like the "Hi -- I'm working on..." example from that link. I criticize machines a lot for overfitting, but I'll especially criticize machines being taught by people who are overfit. Hard to create general machines without understanding why things are and the rabbit holes that exist everywhere around us.
- wruza 3y agoI was surprised when the bar wasn’t already full with my “Hi” opening. There’s probably little that makes me more anxious than the perspective of time-consuming handshake protocols with people you don’t really want to hear cause they needy or demanding. Most of the times you see my single-checkmark is because there’s `HELLO` with no subject.
- PH95VuimJjqBqy 3y agoI opened with 'fuck off' and the bar wasn't full. 2nd message was also 'fuck off' still not full.
- okwhateverdude 3y agoMight want to at least try to mitigate the prompt injection and definitely make sure none of the openai tools are enabled: https://i.imgur.com/DQCHMup.png https://i.imgur.com/DQCHMup.png
- jeanmayer 3y agothanks for the tip, will fix that!