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Honestly it's just rude to tell guests how to act. Yes ruder than them using their phones in a way you don't approve of.

steve_adams_86 3y ago
I'm not telling them how to act. Rather, I'm telling them what's preferred in my home. I don't like if people to smoke in my home, either. Or wear their shoes in my home. Someone could flatly refuse (some kids have), and I don't kick them out or anything. I don't appreciate it, but I'm not going to militantly enforce the rule. I just make my preferences known and try to explain them so it doesn't seem arbitrary. edit: I should add that if someone needs to be in touch with their kids or something, I really don't mind. I'll keep my phone on hand if I'm expecting an important call or I know my kids are out and might try to get in touch for a ride home or something. In those cases though, not using the phone for other reasons is still a known preference. That's good enough for me.
- gardenhedge 3y ago
  > I'm not telling them how to act. > It probably sounds extreme. It keeps people from doing what you're describing though. Sounds like you are.
drekipus 3y ago
> Honestly it's just rude to tell guests how to act Do you tell them not to break furniture, or swear in-front of children, or leave trash out? This is the person's home. I also have no issues with setting limits on guests. It means that my home is a safe place and everyone within it knows how to act. It also means everyone is welcome as long as they abide by the rules; no matter what their background is. or to put another way; guests are not above the house.
- trealira 3y ago
  I agree. It seems like the wrong way around to say that it's rude to tell guests how to act; guests are supposed to be polite to the hosts and follow their rules. It's why you might put your feet up on the table at your own house, but not at someone else's house unless they give you permission.
- gardenhedge 3y ago
  Ridiculous comparisons to be honest - so lazy they don't deserve a response.
edmundsauto 3y ago
Boundaries are healthy and people are free to associate with folks who draw similar lines.
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steve_adams_86 3y ago

I'm not telling them how to act. Rather, I'm telling them what's preferred in my home. I don't like if people to smoke in my home, either. Or wear their shoes in my home. Someone could flatly refuse (some kids have), and I don't kick them out or anything. I don't appreciate it, but I'm not going to militantly enforce the rule. I just make my preferences known and try to explain them so it doesn't seem arbitrary. edit: I should add that if someone needs to be in touch with their kids or something, I really don't mind. I'll keep my phone on hand if I'm expecting an important call or I know my kids are out and might try to get in touch for a ride home or something. In those cases though, not using the phone for other reasons is still a known preference. That's good enough for me.

gardenhedge 3y ago
> I'm not telling them how to act. > It probably sounds extreme. It keeps people from doing what you're describing though. Sounds like you are.

drekipus 3y ago

> Honestly it's just rude to tell guests how to act Do you tell them not to break furniture, or swear in-front of children, or leave trash out? This is the person's home. I also have no issues with setting limits on guests. It means that my home is a safe place and everyone within it knows how to act. It also means everyone is welcome as long as they abide by the rules; no matter what their background is. or to put another way; guests are not above the house.

trealira 3y ago
I agree. It seems like the wrong way around to say that it's rude to tell guests how to act; guests are supposed to be polite to the hosts and follow their rules. It's why you might put your feet up on the table at your own house, but not at someone else's house unless they give you permission.
gardenhedge 3y ago
Ridiculous comparisons to be honest - so lazy they don't deserve a response.

edmundsauto 3y ago

Boundaries are healthy and people are free to associate with folks who draw similar lines.

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