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Ask HN: Who is feeling Depressed and Why? (Feb 2024)

16 points by alexander2002 3y ago

I will go first Feeling(s):Feeling suicidal for last 3 months. Extreme axiety and depression Reason(s):I have been mentally unstable for last 5 years and unhappy.I was born ugly .I am a lonely person

nothercastle 3y ago
Ok so you covered the things going wrong. What are some things going right? Anything? Can you leverage things going right to address things going wrong
- alexander2002 3y ago
  I am frankly tired of this world. Everything is overwhelming.I cant think straight nor act like an adult. No social skills basically/No maturity / no tech skill / no academic skill / no hobby == animal I feel like I will always be catching up with my peers and I just dont have the energy to do that.
Saphyel 3y ago
M ex gf apparently cheated on me and then cheated with his new bf with me
tshirttime 3y ago
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- alexander2002 3y ago
  who asked for your suggestion?
  - subtra3t 3y ago
    I agree that their comment was perhaps a bit uncalled for and rude. Even if it was meant in a humorous manner I think it was in bad taste. But there is no need to be equally rude to them in my opinion.
    - alexander2002 3y ago
      Yeah my bad.
- noonanibus 3y ago
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  - tshirttime 3y ago
    Don't knock it til you try it.
    - alexander2002 3y ago
      You should be ashamed of yourself.
      - tshirttime 3y ago
        Living with shame is still living.
3dsnano 3y ago
feelings: general depression and disconnection from reality. complacency, slowness. reasons: holidays are always hard; violation of trust from cofounder. actions: signed up for brightside, completed the psych review, on antidepressants with weekly therapy sessions. very easy to do and covered by my insurance. hardest part was gaining the energy to sign up. outcome: still not great but i can begin to understand what joy could be.
- WXLCKNO 3y ago
  Disconnection from reality is such a weird feeling. Good job on starting psychotherapy and antidepressants! It's crazy how much our perception of things can change when imbalances in our brain are dealt with.
  - alexander2002 3y ago
    I had a muscle neck spasm after doing my suicide regime(hint:I failed) about 7-9 days ago. It was the worst 2 days of life. I have essentially spent 3 months of life bed ridden due to depression and axiety.(Ruined my life at 22 yay!!) The reason I am saying is that I took fluxotine(anti-depressant for 1.5 year and was doing some progress in life. But after sometime,I stopped the medicine thinking I am fine.Turned out I was not fine!!! P.sI am just venting so plz ignore if i got offtopic
    - 3dsnano 3y ago
      i was also on fluxotine and started to experience side effects that made it difficult to focus, so i stopped taking them and slowly regressed back into depression. i'm on bupropion now and besides feeling a bit bonkers for a few weeks, joy is starting to creep in hang in there. you can do it. there are no shortcuts. in and through is the only way. you can be better, you can do better, i believe in you. don't give up, there is so much beauty to life, if you know where/how to look at it you get to decide how u want 2 feel about it. u are in control if you allow yourself 2 be
- subtra3t 3y ago
  I hope things get better for you.
subtra3t 3y ago
Feeling: Feeling suicidal for the last week or so. Felt depressed for the last couple months, thankfully anxiety is still an unknown emotion for me. Reasons: Any hope I had of fulfilling my lifelong dream ended half a year ago. Somebody who I envied my entire life, and always tried to surpass, achieved it despite putting in far less effort than me (what I think; the reality may be different). Some people who I thought were close to me started to alienate me. That's the wrong word for it, they weren't doing anything that they thought was wrong. I realized that the next 2-8 years of my life will be terrible due to a very important decision that somebody took on my behalf. This somebody is also someone very close to me. I am in no position to say this, but things really do get better. Even if you think there's no hope right now, you can't predict what may happen in the future. You may meet new people, understand some interesting stories. There's just too many variables for someone to confidently say that their life will be fruitless. I am not a certified counsellor or anything but if anybody wants to talk my email(s) is in my profile.
CM30 3y ago
Feelings: Depressed and burnt out for the last few months, with severe depression. Reasons: Entire team is being made redundant in a few months, and the job market is a miserable one at the moment. Also stressed out by some issues with my personal projects, and personal issues. Actions: Well I'm applying for new jobs in companies I'd be interested in working in, and I'm confident that I'll find something new at some point.
milesvp 3y ago
> I was born ugly One of the ugliest people I have ever met was also one of the most charismatic. This person looked like a troll from a fairy tale, just hideously ugly. But he could hold a room like you wouldn’t believe. And people were drawn to him. Before getting to know this person, I did not think an ugly person could have any charisma. I have since learned that charisma is very much a skill that can be learned. You may be unable to do anything about your ugliness. But you can learn to hold a room, or learn to be someone people want to be around despite being difficult to look at.
- mococa 3y ago
  I am ungly, not extremely, but unattractive, and my height is well below the average for my country, which itself is already low. Being charismatic and funny has greatly helped me in various aspects and opportunities in life.
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kstenerud 3y ago
> I was born ugly Not sure if this is appropriate, but there's a movie called "blind and ugly" about an ugly guy getting together with a blind woman. If anything it's a cute movie to pass the time... https://m.imdb.com/title/tt5034090/ https://m.imdb.com/title/tt5034090/ As for me, I'm depressed because my wife died 2 weeks ago. Treasure your loved ones while you have them.
- the_svd_doctor 3y ago
  Ho man. I'm so sorry for your loss. Can't imagine how that must feel like. > Treasure your loved ones while you have them. So true, yet so easy to forget sometimes during the day to day life.
- kubeia 3y ago
  Crushing reminder, I will.
- alexander2002 3y ago
  Hi,so sorry to hear about your wife death.I hope you can find some happiness eventually.She would want the same for you.
pupppet 3y ago
I feel like I've brought kids into a dying world.
- alexander2002 3y ago
  as ironic as it might seem given my mental health https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJUhlRoBL8M https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJUhlRoBL8M If you are able to make your childern happy ,that is what matters. My parents always provided for us but never fostered a happy household. Death will come for us eventually,happiness is what matters (I have learnt the hard way!!)
gremlinsinc 3y ago
Been feeling isolated and alone for months, wife has been just angry all the time, and we're just at a point where I don't think it's going to work. Moving out soon, but my depression has left me near penniless, (hard to focus on freelance work as a dev when you can't stomach getting out of bed, or wish you just wouldn't wake up. ).. I think maybe I'm coming out of it, kinda excited to at least have some peace and quiet so i can actually get work done.
SharonRussell 3y ago
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16 points by alexander2002 3y ago

I will go first Feeling(s):Feeling suicidal for last 3 months. Extreme axiety and depression Reason(s):I have been mentally unstable for last 5 years and unhappy.I was born ugly .I am a lonely person

nothercastle 3y ago

Ok so you covered the things going wrong. What are some things going right? Anything? Can you leverage things going right to address things going wrong

alexander2002 3y ago
I am frankly tired of this world. Everything is overwhelming.I cant think straight nor act like an adult. No social skills basically/No maturity / no tech skill / no academic skill / no hobby == animal I feel like I will always be catching up with my peers and I just dont have the energy to do that.

Saphyel 3y ago

M ex gf apparently cheated on me and then cheated with his new bf with me

tshirttime 3y ago

[flagged]

alexander2002 3y ago
who asked for your suggestion?
- subtra3t 3y ago
  I agree that their comment was perhaps a bit uncalled for and rude. Even if it was meant in a humorous manner I think it was in bad taste. But there is no need to be equally rude to them in my opinion.
  - alexander2002 3y ago
    Yeah my bad.
noonanibus 3y ago
[flagged]
- tshirttime 3y ago
  Don't knock it til you try it.
  - alexander2002 3y ago
    You should be ashamed of yourself.
    - tshirttime 3y ago
      Living with shame is still living.

3dsnano 3y ago

feelings: general depression and disconnection from reality. complacency, slowness. reasons: holidays are always hard; violation of trust from cofounder. actions: signed up for brightside, completed the psych review, on antidepressants with weekly therapy sessions. very easy to do and covered by my insurance. hardest part was gaining the energy to sign up. outcome: still not great but i can begin to understand what joy could be.

WXLCKNO 3y ago
Disconnection from reality is such a weird feeling. Good job on starting psychotherapy and antidepressants! It's crazy how much our perception of things can change when imbalances in our brain are dealt with.
- alexander2002 3y ago
  I had a muscle neck spasm after doing my suicide regime(hint:I failed) about 7-9 days ago. It was the worst 2 days of life. I have essentially spent 3 months of life bed ridden due to depression and axiety.(Ruined my life at 22 yay!!) The reason I am saying is that I took fluxotine(anti-depressant for 1.5 year and was doing some progress in life. But after sometime,I stopped the medicine thinking I am fine.Turned out I was not fine!!! P.sI am just venting so plz ignore if i got offtopic
  - 3dsnano 3y ago
    i was also on fluxotine and started to experience side effects that made it difficult to focus, so i stopped taking them and slowly regressed back into depression. i'm on bupropion now and besides feeling a bit bonkers for a few weeks, joy is starting to creep in hang in there. you can do it. there are no shortcuts. in and through is the only way. you can be better, you can do better, i believe in you. don't give up, there is so much beauty to life, if you know where/how to look at it you get to decide how u want 2 feel about it. u are in control if you allow yourself 2 be
subtra3t 3y ago
I hope things get better for you.

subtra3t 3y ago

Feeling: Feeling suicidal for the last week or so. Felt depressed for the last couple months, thankfully anxiety is still an unknown emotion for me. Reasons: Any hope I had of fulfilling my lifelong dream ended half a year ago. Somebody who I envied my entire life, and always tried to surpass, achieved it despite putting in far less effort than me (what I think; the reality may be different). Some people who I thought were close to me started to alienate me. That's the wrong word for it, they weren't doing anything that they thought was wrong. I realized that the next 2-8 years of my life will be terrible due to a very important decision that somebody took on my behalf. This somebody is also someone very close to me. I am in no position to say this, but things really do get better. Even if you think there's no hope right now, you can't predict what may happen in the future. You may meet new people, understand some interesting stories. There's just too many variables for someone to confidently say that their life will be fruitless. I am not a certified counsellor or anything but if anybody wants to talk my email(s) is in my profile.

CM30 3y ago

Feelings: Depressed and burnt out for the last few months, with severe depression. Reasons: Entire team is being made redundant in a few months, and the job market is a miserable one at the moment. Also stressed out by some issues with my personal projects, and personal issues. Actions: Well I'm applying for new jobs in companies I'd be interested in working in, and I'm confident that I'll find something new at some point.

milesvp 3y ago

> I was born ugly One of the ugliest people I have ever met was also one of the most charismatic. This person looked like a troll from a fairy tale, just hideously ugly. But he could hold a room like you wouldn’t believe. And people were drawn to him. Before getting to know this person, I did not think an ugly person could have any charisma. I have since learned that charisma is very much a skill that can be learned. You may be unable to do anything about your ugliness. But you can learn to hold a room, or learn to be someone people want to be around despite being difficult to look at.

mococa 3y ago
I am ungly, not extremely, but unattractive, and my height is well below the average for my country, which itself is already low. Being charismatic and funny has greatly helped me in various aspects and opportunities in life.

deleted 3y ago

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kstenerud 3y ago

> I was born ugly Not sure if this is appropriate, but there's a movie called "blind and ugly" about an ugly guy getting together with a blind woman. If anything it's a cute movie to pass the time... https://m.imdb.com/title/tt5034090/ https://m.imdb.com/title/tt5034090/ As for me, I'm depressed because my wife died 2 weeks ago. Treasure your loved ones while you have them.

the_svd_doctor 3y ago
Ho man. I'm so sorry for your loss. Can't imagine how that must feel like. > Treasure your loved ones while you have them. So true, yet so easy to forget sometimes during the day to day life.
kubeia 3y ago
Crushing reminder, I will.
alexander2002 3y ago
Hi,so sorry to hear about your wife death.I hope you can find some happiness eventually.She would want the same for you.

pupppet 3y ago

I feel like I've brought kids into a dying world.

alexander2002 3y ago
as ironic as it might seem given my mental health https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJUhlRoBL8M https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJUhlRoBL8M If you are able to make your childern happy ,that is what matters. My parents always provided for us but never fostered a happy household. Death will come for us eventually,happiness is what matters (I have learnt the hard way!!)

gremlinsinc 3y ago

Been feeling isolated and alone for months, wife has been just angry all the time, and we're just at a point where I don't think it's going to work. Moving out soon, but my depression has left me near penniless, (hard to focus on freelance work as a dev when you can't stomach getting out of bed, or wish you just wouldn't wake up. ).. I think maybe I'm coming out of it, kinda excited to at least have some peace and quiet so i can actually get work done.

SharonRussell 3y ago

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