I can actually answer this. It is a decision you can make, but that phrasing trivializes it. Getting to that point and internalizing it is not an easy process

I can actually answer this. It is a decision you can make, but that phrasing trivializes it. Getting to that point and internalizing it is not an easy process and may require medication or therapy to gain the necessary perspective to see this as a choice. I had to unlearn a lot of things and spend years putting the past in perspective to get there.